I guess there are many reasons why someone would want to get "involved" in a "more than a friend" relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Maybe you want some attention. Getting into a relationship can get you into everyone's whispered gossip. Maybe you want to be recognized. Going out with someone popular will give you instant fame and recognition. Maybe you just want somebody to "get with." I don't have to explain myself with this one: Is it because everybody else is coupled and you feel left out? For some lucky ones, maybe you've followed the guiding of your heart, and it has led you to the one of your dreams (highly unlikely and most likely a fraud).

Whatever the reason is, you have a boyfriend/girlfriend now, and all your problems are solved. Your life has just begun. Like a new spring flower, you bloom into maturity, and await the happiness that you will receive as a result of this big step taken in the "right direction." After all, you're in paradise now with your sweetheart.

Well, have any of you seen that "got milk" commercial? The one where this guy goes to heaven, and he see these huge, irresistible, delicious chocolate chip cookies. He divulges himself into this luscious treat. When he opens the refrigerator, it is full of quarts of milk. He is overjoyed. But when he reaches to drink, he realizes that they are all empty. "Where am I?" he asks himself. I hate to say it, but a relationship is like that as well. It sure does feel good in the beginning, but when problems start, it can be the worst experience; things that may even ruin your life.

Commitment is a problem that one has to deal with. It is inevitable to wonder if you can get anyone "better." And this inquiry can get you into a lot of trouble if you try to put it to the test. Then there are the little things. "Why hasn't he/she called me back?" "He/she's so picky!" "I can't believe he/she said that to me! The nerve!" All these little things, little nitpicking things that you realize about them over time can accrue into an annoyance or dissension towards them. Lastly, there is the inevitable breakup. If you have poured your heart out into the relationship, then it just sucks. Plain and simple.

The chances of the relationship lasting for a lovely lifetime are incredibly slim. And the odds of something going wrong are almost definite. So it just comes down to that. Are you willing to take on the challenge of a relationship? Some would very much rather just avoid relationships in general, and take themselves out of the "red zone." But for those of you who care to embark on the adventure, our hats off to you. Good luck.

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