Should teenagers take their chances at an early relationship or should they take full advantage of other teenage offerings now and pursue love at a later age? Personally, I think the answer to this question is simple. I will not take a decisive side, because I think that it all depends on the individual. It is dependent upon individual preference. There are many factors in determining whether or not a relationship is a good idea for you.

First and obviously, you must have first met the right person. You should obviously be attracted to the person. This attraction should not be merely physical, because a purely physical relationship can end up in nothing but hurt and emptiness. That would only make you a slut, or a player. You should get to know the person, and be attracted to their personality, as well as their body. You should also make sure that you are emotionally stable enough to handle a relationship, especially the side effects of a relationship. You must be ready to handle disagreements and arguments. If you are not emotionally mature enough, these petty things can lead to a broken relationship, a broken heart, or even a ruined future. Do not pour anything into a relationship that you are not ready to commit to.

A relationship is a wonderful thing if it is not misused. A relationship is not for the sole purpose of getting "play." A real relationship will teach valuable life lessons to those involved. It teaches simple moral values such as responsibility, trust, loyalty, respect, honor, and much more. It teaches you to face trials and to respect your partner for who they are. A relationship should not be one-sided, it should be mutual. And I know this sounds corny, but for some, a relationship is a good way of finding your future spouse. For some who take relationships seriously, and who really commit themselves to it, it can be a lifelong experience. This would avoid the sometimes painful breaking-up process. Last, but not least, a relationship just feels good. It is reassuring that there is always that special someone you can talk to. They will always be there with you in those hard times. It teaches us moral lessons, but also assures us that as we live our daily lives, someone will be by our sides.

For those who dare not tamper with a relationship, they have good intentions also. Simply, a relationship is not for everyone. Obviously, there is the nearly inevitable breakup process. This is painful most of the time, and to avoid this, you simply avoid the cause, which is the relationship in the first place. Another not so noticeable defect in a relationship is the fact that when you concentrate your feelings toward one person, you involuntarily exclude many other things in your life. One can be your family, or your friends, your schoolwork, anything that you can be doing instead of talking to that special someone, writing love notes, or just daydreaming about them. That time can just as well be spent on other productive things, such as studying harder, or spending quality time with your family or friends.

All of these are the ups and downs of a relationship. We as teenagers, should not get ourselves into anything that we cannot handle. This is a very fragile point in our lives for some, and many consequences of a relationship at this point in their life can be detrimental. But for those who venture into the dating game, the outcome can be great memories, or great futures. It depends on how you go about it. Before entering a relationship, it is imperative that you go through some self-evaluation. If you are not secure in your life, you would be adding more hardships to it. But if you are ready, it can be the greatest thing in your life.

"There are many factors in determining whether or not a relationship is a good idea ..."

" A real relationship will teach valuable life lessons to those involved..."

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