High school, if you take it seriously enough, is a demanding place. Juggling homework, activities, and a job (if you have one), can be nerve wrecking to many students. The thought of college being only a few years, if not months, away also puts a strain on high school life. Then why do I think so highly of high school romance when all it seems to present is just another burden on one's mind and schedule? Well, my answer probably comes from personal experience and a whole bunch of movie flicks and Korean dramas.

When you first like someone, that person transcends above anyone else you know in your mind and you start to admire them. Being able to have a pure, almost perfect image of someone in your mind will make you want to win the favor of that person or have that person feel the same way about you. To me, that feeling of wanting someone to see you as a complete person makes every aspect of life so much better. In school, studying becomes fierce because in the back of my mind, I somehow think that doing well will impress the person I like, though that probably isn't even the case. Athletically, a competitive atmosphere develops for anything I do, and just thinking about that person makes me want to work harder. These things sound great, but sooner or later, you will want more and once you reach an almost obsessive admiration, it's time to make a move.

High school is great in that if you mess up in a relationship, like you forgot to pick a girl up one day and got her mad, the world doesn't necessarily end there. There's plenty of other people around or you can make up and be close again. Knowing high school provides such a cushion should make it easier for taking chances. Personally, I dread taking chances at anyone I like because I hate failing at something, so going for someone who you aren't sure will like you is for the bold hearted. Once you've hooked up with someone you like, not someone who you've been assigned to by a friend, but someone who you picked out on your own and definitely know they feel the same way about you, the great feeling starts. Relationships always have ups and downs, but just knowing there is someone who cares about what you do all the time (and aren't your parents) should suffice enough in making you feel good about yourself. Spending time with that person should be tough, but every minute with that person should be worth any troubles. Hanging out with friends is fun, but being exclusive to one person and cherishing every moment together somehow seems more attractive. I guess the movies are at fault because they influence teen culture so much, but after watching many romantic movies, such as "Titanic" and even "Good Will Hunting", young love doesn't seem bad at all.

Connecting with someone you like will not happen all the time. Your targeted person may already be taken or may never come to like you. I have to admit I've been a victim of that a few times, but all I can say is grit your teeth and take it out on the wall with your fists or do everything harder with anger. In most cases, high school is not the place where you will find a perfect match, but rather a formidable companion to make life a bit more colorful. However, if you do happen to come across a loveable individual, take your chances and hope that the best occurs. Youth comes only once in life, so why not make the most out of it?

"Being able to have a pure, almost perfect image of someone in your mind will make you want to win the favor of that person..."

" Your targeted person may already be taken or may never come to like you..."

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